When invited to a dinner or party it's customary to bring a gift to the hostess. 

• A bottle of wine to share with the guests always is a smashing hit at the party.
• A great bottle of wine, dessert,  candies etc  make great gift to the host/hostess.
• A bouquet of flowers can set into place a festive mood. Brighten up the table setting and/or the people enjoying the array of color and its fragrance..

Rationale:  You are acknowledging the Host/Hostess.  It’s a thank you gesture for an invitation into his/her home.  A gracious form of acknowledgment.   A definite way to obtain favor.An opportunity to be introduced into his/ her inner circle of friends. 

 
Please when attending a private function in which you bring  a bottle of wine/liquor etc.

Do not leave with it.  If you would like to take it home with you, allow the host/hostess the opportunity of offering it back to you.

Many  times there is so much food and drink that they really wouldn’t mind.  But be respectful and ask first.   

A RSVP event requires a response.  It is important that you respond within the requested date. 

• If you forget to call within the requested time given. PLEASE do not just show up.  Call and ask if the invitation is still available.

• Do not just show up with your buddies and visiting relatives without calling and

checking with the host/hostess  

Rationale:  Responding to the RSVP allows the host/hostess to plan and budget for the event.  It prevents an embarrassment.  If there is a change in the in your situation  i.e. your not able to attend or unexpected friends/ family show up and are wanting to attend call them.  Many times its not a problem.  They may need to make some adjustments to make sure there is enough food or space for everyone. 

Never assume that children are allowed at the function. Always ask before bringing them to the event.          . 
 

                                                                       - Queen Clara